GIVE YOURSELF THE GIFT OF RESPITE CARE
Are you a family caregiver who feels that the stress of taking care of your aging parent or a spouse is taking its toll on your patience and perseverance? Perhaps even harming your health?
Are you a spouse who has watched your partner constantly take time off from work due to the health needs of another family member? Is their absence affecting the household or their ability to function effectively in business?
Family caregivers are familiar with feelings of resentment, sadness, frustration, guilt, anxiety and anger. These are all common, we are after all, only human. Sometimes we can figure out what triggers these emotions and how to address them, like feeling unappreciated - but often the root of the problem is sheer exhaustion or just the need for time alone or a chance to do something for yourself!
Don’t feel guilty. If you are like most people you want to do all you can to help your Senior spouse, parent or elderly loved one ease their pain, and be there always to help them deal with their daily difficulties. But we all have limits. Remind yourself the loved one you are caring for does not want to be a burden – and that now may be a good time to consider the gift of respite care.
What is Respite Care? “Respite” care means to temporarily take a break from caring for someone with special needs. Ideally it should be a few hours, a few days a week, and can easily be arranged for in the home. Your loved one can be cared for by an experienced professional able to assist them with the Activities of Daily Living (bathing, dressing, transferring, etc.) as well as prepare their meals, provide medication reminders, and handle any light housekeeping necessary. You have the option of arranging for respite care short term, or long term.
Respite care is temporary relief care designed so that spouses, siblings, and adult children can get some rest, attend to important business, resolve personal issues, or just join their families for a vacation or lifecycle events like a graduation or wedding!
It is not always easy to arrange for another family member or a nearby friend to jump in and help when you need it. Expect to be frustrated when you can’t get the support you need, but don’t let this frustration translate into resentment towards your loved one. It is most helpful to arrange for respite care before you become totally exhausted and overwhelmed by caregiving responsibilities. Respite can be beneficial and enjoyable for both the caregiver and the “care-receiver!”
If you are a family caregiver that could use a break, or are related to a family caregiver, remember the gift of respite care. Respite care is an essential part of the overall support system that can ensure an ill or aging family member can remain at home. Respite care enables you to recharge and refresh, so that you can be a better caregiver, and improve your relationship with your loved one. A home care agency can arrange for a day, a half day, even a few hours away that can keep things positive and in perspective, while providing a chance for the caregiver to take care of themselves physically, emotionally, and psychologically!
Till next time!
Irv Seldin, JD
Owner and CEO of Visiting Angels of the Palm Beaches
This article is not intended as medical advice.