How to Talk About Mental Health with Your Aging Relative
Mental health refers to one’s psychological, emotional, and emotional well-being. It’s an important component of our overall health, affecting how our bodies physically function. Research shows that positive mental health slows physical decline, especially as we age. Mental health plays a massive role in our lifestyle choices, including how often we socialize and pursue physical activity.
May is Mental Health Awareness Month. It reminds us that our psychological well-being is just as important as our physical health. Although mental health is becoming less and less stigmatized, some older adults are still uncomfortable talking about their mental health. Many choose to suffer in silence instead of admitting to feeling lonely, anxious, or depressed.
As a family member, you may need to take the lead in starting the conversation. Here are a few tips to guide you as you seek to talk about mental health with your aging relative.
Become Informed
Learn the facts about mental health and older adults, and consider your aging relative’s risk factors for mental health problems. Educate yourself about common signs an older adult is struggling with their mental health. Common signs include social withdrawal, loss of appetite, unplanned weight loss, changes in personal care, and varied mood swings.
Approach the Topic at the Right Time
Choose the right moment to talk about mental health with your aging relative. Avoid the topic when they seem overwhelmed or are occupied with something else. Instead, approach the topic when they’re calm and seem receptive. Share your own struggles with mental health to warm them up to the topic.
Choose Your Words Carefully
Keep your words brief and to the point. Share specific examples where you can. Avoid statements of accusation. Use “I-message” statements to express your concerns gently. For example, you might say, “I noticed you were flustered and agitated yesterday when we went out to lunch. I’m concerned about you. I’d like to know if you’re really okay.”
Let Them Process
After you’ve initiated the conversation, give your family member time to respond. Some older adults need a few seconds to process what you’ve said and formulate a response. They might also need time to accept your open invitation to a conversation about their mental health. Let them take the lead. If they seem to brush you off, move on to another topic and try again another time. Remind them that you’re always available if they want to discuss the topic at another time.
Continue the Conversation
Mental health is a topic that needs to be discussed regularly. It’s not a one-and-done type of conversation, especially if your aging relative is struggling. Keep the conversation going by regularly checking in with them. Ask follow-up questions to the conversation you initially started. Check to see if they are making strides to improve their mental health. The more you discuss mental health, the less awkward a conversation topic it becomes.
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